Help with Anger and Behaviour

Anger is an emotion that everybody will experience. Although anger is a normal emotion which everybody experiences, it can start to become a problem if you express your anger through unhelpful or destructive behaviours.  This can either by towards yourself or other people.  If your anger does have an impact on you in this way, it can also contribute to you developing mental health difficulties such as depression or anxiety.  Understanding our anger and understanding the triggers may help you to overcome it.

If you need some support with your anger you may find yourself doing some of these things:

• hitting or physically hurting other people
• shouting at people
• breaking things
• losing control
• spending time with people who get you into trouble
• constantly ending relationships or getting in trouble at school or work

There are ways in which you can help yourself to cope with anger when it becomes overwhelming such as:

• Recognising your anger signs and being aware of what causes your anger to try to understand and manage it better
• Count to ten and breathe slowly. This can give you time to think and calm down
• Talk about how your feel. This could be with anyone that you find comforting to talk to
• Do something creative. This can help channel your energy and focus toward something else
• Listen to calming music. This can help to change your mood and slow down your physical reaction

By speaking to your parents, carers or close family and friends they may also be able to support you. If you find speaking to people you know difficult, you could try talking to a counsellor on www.kooth.com which is free for anyone aged between 10 and 25 in Bolton.