Help with Anger and Behaviour

Everybody can feel angry sometimes, often when you feel frustrated or unfairly treated. Anger can start to become a problem when it gets out of control and harms you or the people around you.

Anger is an emotion that everybody will experience. Although anger is a normal emotion which everybody experiences, it can start to become a problem if you express your anger through unhelpful or destructive behaviours.  This can either by towards yourself or other people.  If your anger does have an impact on you in this way, it can also contribute to you developing mental health difficulties such as depression or anxiety.  Understanding our anger and understanding the triggers may help you to overcome it.


If you need some support with your anger you may find yourself doing some of these things:


  • hitting or physically hurting other people
  • shouting at people
  • breaking things
  • losing control
  • spending time with people who get you into trouble
  • constantly ending relationships or getting in trouble at school or work


There are ways in which you can help yourself to cope with anger when it becomes overwhelming such as:

  • Recognising your anger signs and being aware of what causes your anger to try to understand and manage it better
  • Count to ten and breathe slowly. This can give you time to think and calm down
  • Talk about how your feel. This could be with anyone that you find comforting to talk to
  • Do something creative. This can help channel your energy and focus toward something else
  • Listen to calming music. This can help to change your mood and slow down your physical reaction

By speaking to your parents, carers or close family and friends they may also be able to support you. If you find speaking to people you know difficult, you could try talking to a counsellor on which is free for anyone aged between 10 and 25 in Bolton.


Articles & Guides

Dealing with anger

Information on dealing with anger for young people

Anger – A guide for young people

Young Minds have produced a guide for young people who experience anger

Managing anger

Resources developed by The Children’s Society for managing anger

Long term coping with anger

Mind provide a range of information about how to cope with anger


5 steps to manage your anger

A short fun video on how to manage your anger

Talking about anger

Young Minds asked young people what anger feels like for them, and how they manage it.

It was just one bad pass

Young Minds asked young people to share their stories of feeling angry as part of the #listentoanger campaign


Local information about services available to support your mental health