Help with Self-Harm

Self-harm is when you hurt yourself on purpose to relieve feelings of distress. If you self-harm, you might be dealing with lots of intense thoughts and feelings and hurting yourself feels like the only way to let those feelings out

Talking about how you’re feeling with someone you trust can feel like a relief. This person could be a friend, family member, teacher, school counsellor/nurse, or youth worker.  Professional support can also make a difference.  Your GP can refer you to Child and Adolescent Mental Health Services (CAMHS) so you can have an assessment and get the treatment that is right for you. You might be offered counselling or talking therapy, where you can talk with trained mental health professionals about what you are feeling and ways you can cope.

It’s really important to keep yourself as safe as possible and reduce your risk of serious self-injury. Even though you want to stop self-harming, you might not feel able to stop straight away.  You could try to:

  • go for a walk or do some gentle exercise
  • focus on your breathing
  • text a friend and let them know you need them to help you take your mind off things
  • play music and sing or dance along
  • hold an ice cube
  • write down your thoughts
  • hit a cushion or pillow
  • Create a personal box of items that remind you happy times.

It’s important that you make a safety plan with someone who you trust, and it is important to remember that not all young people deal with things the same .Each young person may need different things to help support them to pass through these intense feelings.

There are other ways in which you can get support such as Chat Health and Kooth.  These are both confidential 1:1 text based services where you can speak to a professional for support.

Calm Harm is a free app which provides you with support and strategies to help you resist or manage the urge to self-harm.

The Mix also offers support to anyone under 25 about anything that’s troubling them.  There is email support available via their online contact form, a free 1-2-1 web chat service available and free short-term counselling service.  The opening times are 3pm – 12am, seven days a week 0808 808 4994

Little Book of Coping Skills

Articles & Guides

Young Minds – My feelings – Self Harm

An overview of self-harm and ways in which you can get support

Coping with self-harm

Coping with self-harm for young people

Creating a safety plan

Staying Safe have a page dedicated to creating an online safety plan. You can also download and print off the document to write on

Video

Things can change

Young people talking about their experiences of self-harm and around getting support

Mindful Breathing Exercise

Every Mind Matters have produced a 2 minute video on how to do a mindful breathing exercise to help you feel more calm and present

MeeToo

A free app for teenagers (11+) providing resources and a fully-moderated community where you can share your problems, get support and help other people too.

Downloads

Provides you with support and strategies to help you resist or manage the urge to self-harm.

Shout have created a downloadable workbook full of coping methods for anyone struggling with their mental health.